THE WORLD IS FULL of victims. I don't mean the millions who've suffered through war and conflict or injustice. I mean the weak, small-minded people who think their problems have nothing to do with them and everything to do with a world that is unfair. That's bad enough. But now being a victim has even become something to be proud of, to share with other people and display like a badge of honour.
If you are not sure what I'm talking about, then have a look at what I've written below and ask yourself if any of these points applies to you :
- You want others to know that you had a bad time.
- You think everything that happens to you is 'unfair'.
- You believe it is always other people who get the breaks.
- You secretly feel pleased when others feel sorry for you.
- You see the world through the eyes of defeat.
If you can identify with at least one of these, you join a growing group of people who think that being a victim is no bad thing. And telling the world about it is even better, especially if your life is pretty good now. Tony Blair jumped on the bandwagon when he told us how, as a youngster who wanted to form a band, he slept on the streets of London for a whole night. What a bloke! What a victim!
If you can identify with most of those points, my guess is that you are one of those people who believe the world is out to get you. You're at the mercy of everything. The media love people like you. TV shows like Jerry Springer, Richard and Judy, and Trisha, all devote a large amount of time to people telling us how bloody awful their lives are.
The blame culture
It's always the fault of someone else that their boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband left them. Somebody else made them overweight.
The media, and the stupid people who play along with them, present 'normal' life as never having problems, obstacles or arguments. The truth is that life is actually about overcoming those to get the things you want. It is not easy and it is often not fair. But who said the world had to be? Whoever said that life had to go your way? The fact is that even when you bust a gut trying to do your best, it still might not go your way. Because that's just how things are.
I'm not saying that these people haven't suffered or felt pain. My point is that what they have gone through is perfectly normal and should be expected as part of life. But because they have chosen to take a certain view of the world, they believe that what has happened to them has nothing to do with their own actions. And like all victims, they believe that the world revolves around them.
One of the things you notice about victims is that they don't care about anybody else. They are always ready to tell you how much harder their life is. My daughter was working in a very stressful job. She was new at it and she was finding it a bit of struggle. Looking for advice, she went to speak to her line manager about how difficult she was finding things. Her manager, a man who had done very well, could only respond by telling her how much harder he'd had it in his career. He did not bother to listen to her. She wasn't looking to compare jobs with this man, she was looking for support. But he was too wrapped up in himself to see it.
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A part of this amazing book I'm reading about "How to Change Your Life in 7 steps". I would write it all here if I could. The book is really inspiring. I suggest all of you to read it :) It's written by JOHN BIRD, the founder of Big Issue.
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